Okay, mcm ni. nak cerita serba sedikit pasal people who love to ask for my help. tapi don't get me wrong. seriously, I love to help people and I realise yg sometimes I really think hard to solve people's difficulties and even sacrifices my time or energy for them. tapi rasenyer org misuse my willingness and often tak consider pon bile mintak tolong.
cara mintak tolong tu x macam mintak tolong pon.
it sounded like this :
"boleh tak kau tolong fotostat 10000 pages nota ni? aku xde mood lah hari ni nak pegi kedai fotostat"
"boleh tak kau bukak website ni, pastu tolong snap gambar tu pastu antar kat aku. cepat sikit wei. aku nak guna ni. ... .... wei asal xdapat lagi ni??????? aku tunggu ni.. online je kau ni.... "
"weh teman aku pegi tandas. teman aku pegi kedai tu, kedai ni. teman ak balik kampung. teman aku kemanaaa sahajaaaaaaaaaaa. transport kau bayar sendiri muahahahhahahaha "
Okay, maybe my example mcm hyperbola sgt kot. tapi points dia kat sini, the help that people ask mostly macam :
1) memaksa untuk buat
2) tak consider orang tu boleh tolong ke tak, free ke tak
3) tanya banyak kali, bertubi tubi..
4) still tanyaa even orang tu dah buat muka reluctant and dah tolak
okayy, so heres a few list of adab in requesting help from others.
firstly,,,, lau nak mintak tolong orang, tanya duluuu sama ada orang tu available tak free tak pastikan dia free dluuu before u go forward asking help from her. so that, kau pon xde terbagi harapan kat dia....
next,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, reconsider duluu help kau tu.. memanggg perlukan pertolongan ke? memang tak mampu nak buat sorang ke? fikir banyak kaliiii.... sebab nak susahkan orang nii... kena simpatiii jugak. huhu. jgn terbiase mintak tlg, be independent..
pastuu, kalau orang yg kau ask help tu mcm reluctant and xdpt tlg, jgnla pakse lagi.. jangan la buat die rase besalah xtlg.. make sure u dont do that. lau mcm pesen aku ni, ak jenis mudah rase bersalah. pstu, org mmg suke buat ak rse mcm tu. smpai kekadang, ak buat dngn terpaksa. huwaaa. nak pahala. tp jgn la mintak tolong kasaq2 and paksa. bg org suke rela tolong gittew.
last but not least, kena tahu yg orang yg kau selalu mntk tlg tu ade masa utk diorg sendiri, dah organize hidup diorg sndiri. n kau xleh sewenang2 nye nk ubah planner diorg dgn pegi isi aktiviti "teman kau" "tolong kau" tuuu ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"BERPADA PADALAH MEMINTA TOLONG :) "
